After the last lockloss, ETMY Mode 5 was rung up bad enough to prevent locking on the OMC.  I turned on ENGAGE_DAMPING_ALL in the violin mode guardian while sitting on RF DARM.
This helped with many of the modes, but ETMY Mode 5 was the most rung up, and the guardian did not turn on this damping (gain was at 0).  
I turned it on and it worked very quickly with a gain setting of 2 (gain of 20 was too much).